Blogging Along

Have you ever truly reflected on the transient nature of our existence and our lives? A mere century from now, in 2123, we’ll all be dead and the earth will embrace us, nestled beside those we held dear. The homes we painstakingly cleaned, and invested in will echo with the laughter of strangers, and the items we once prized—our cherished books, the jewelry passed down through generations, the technology we marveled at—will either be relics of a bygone era or lost to time, perhaps gathering dust in a collector’s corner or recycled into something new.

Will our descendants recount our stories with reverence or curiosity? How many of us can even recall the dreams and desires of our great-grandparents, or the sound of their laughter?

As the sands of time slip through our fingers, our legacies, no matter how grand, might diminish to a few photographs or letters, eventually fading into the vast tapestry of history. Our vibrant lives, our struggles, and triumphs, were reduced to mere footnotes or whispers in the wind.

Profound Transformation

Yet, if we were to truly internalise this fleeting nature of life, wouldn’t our values and priorities undergo a profound transformation? We’d begin to value the roads less traveled, the stories left untold, the songs unsung. We’d yearn for the embraces we missed, the adventures we postponed, the sunsets we didn’t pause to admire, and the shared meals where stories and dreams were exchanged. These moments, radiant with raw, unfiltered joy, would become the milestones of our existence.

However, in our relentless pursuit—be it of wealth, status, or mere distractions—we often lose sight of life’s true essence. We’re ensnared by ambition, blinded by desire, and made impatient by the ticking clock. Yet, it’s never too late to recalibrate, to live with deeper intention, and to cherish every fleeting, precious moment. After all, it’s these moments that truly define the legacy we leave behind.

It’s windy, it’s wet, it’s cold and Hey hey it’s New Year’s eve!

Great day of any of the 365 of 2012 to reflect back on what happened. A few things have changed in the past few weeks with me LEAVING (not laid off for not pulling my weight as rumoured – You Prick) and setting my digital stall up again is great as I can reflect on what I had, did, and built up before. Anyways here are the 2012/2013 bullet points!

• Be in control of situations – others can try and manipulate you  
• Don’t believe everything someone says, even if they say “Swear on my kid’s lives” as sometimes they are full of s**t and it bites them back 
• Don’t be too impulsive with ideas, step back and have a word with yourself – A good sleep may help you see sense
• Grow your circle of friends, quantity isn’t always better than quality
• Don’t leave the unsaid too late, say it sooner – You’ll be glad you did
• Make a promise, or deadline then KEEP IT  – Too many broken promises leave a bad taste
• Don’t give too much away on first meeting someone
• Driving? Don’t drink – No car tomorrow?!
• Make time for your family where you are all involved – baking, walking, swimming, picnics etc
• Never judge someone on first impressions – you may have met them on an off day & fighting a battle
• Never judge someone by someone else’s options  – there is usually history and 2 stories
• Be straight with people don’t go around the houses – respect is good
• Print digital photos – those memories can crash and be lost in a second
• Long term commitments financially need more than a day’s thought – rushing out to buy a new car
• Try new foods and flavours
• Meet up for meals with groups of mates
• Always have daily, weekly “To do” lists
• Don’t disregard people if they don’t match your personality, you don’t know who they may know
• Don’t spread rumours that are not true – they will bite you in the arse
• Be kind to people – it doesn’t cost anything

So March is when number 3 child is suppose to enter the world! Again some geeky thought had to go into it with the initials and names.

Archie Bobby Corbett sounds and looks a cool name I think but we’ve had a few raised eyebrows or “really!” But that’s his name and we like!

I had to say good bye to my office space at home too to make way for baby items and ideas planned. Ill be just working either at the kitchen table or in the office in Hessle more rather than at home.

Historically, looking back when a child is on the way I have always either started up in business or changed job which is quite bizarre. But a fact ! I only realised this obviously after I left my current job to setup a new digital company.

Looking ahead to 2013, it does for once, look good!

In life and looking back at points in it you will always ask yourself “What if I had not…..” or “What if I had done that…..”

I do think I have made some mistakes that I do wish I could have changed and other things not too bothered about.

As I’ve grown older I do feel myself getting wiser and stable with decisions I make but at the same time I’m always looking for the next free meal ticket or step up a ladder in life. Maybe with not as much risk attached to it.

In just over 2 years I will be 40 and feel far from it to be honest and would like to think I have all my life to live again and live to a ripe age of 85+.

I do feel I haven’t reached my peak of success in life / business and would like to hit that some time soon ideally before I’m 40  with my current plans.

Unfortunately or fortunately depends how you look at it, I do everything with 100% focus, enthusiasm and effect. Then when someone comes on board with me they never seem to reach my bench mark. Recently I gave someone a great opportunity to work with my current ideas who had been out of work and so seemed happy to make an effort with no pay but good perks.

With them been out of work for nearly a year this was a great position for me and them, and so I was a little put back when they decided they needed to look for a part time job 16 hours a week to help pay the mortgage. It was as though i’d prompted them to look but was left as a reaction.

My thoughts to end this entry is to think BIG and aim high. Not to just get by and let others take over or take the cream while you bust a gut.

Do you have a Gran, Mum, Dad or Granddad who you are very fond of and maybe don’t spend that much time with? Do you cringe when they go to hug or kiss you?

I’m sure theirs a few out there that do!

The point of this post is to maybe get a few people to realise that the family you do have and care about won’t be around for ever and in hindsight things change.

My Nana, who would help anyone and give her last £1 to people if she thought they needed it was admitted to Castle Hill Hospital in Cottingham on the 26th July 2012 with breathing problems and was diagnosed with Leukemia. She died at the age of 83 on the 7th August 2012 at Castle Hill Hospital in Cottingham – a month before her Birthday and months before her 60th wedding aniversary and so was married for 59 years.

As well as the Leukemia, she had a chest infection, water on her lungs and just wanted peace and a cool breeze to feel safe.

I made sure my wife, son 11 and daughter 4 went and visited as I knew it was only a matter of time (short time) until she left us forever! She was suffering and the Leukemia was taking her immune system away hour by hour.

This brings me to YOU –  helping you and all the other people that don’t maybe go and visit their Gran or Mum that often or won’t sit and watch Tv holding their Grans hand. Because once they’ve gone, you start to wish and hoped you’d have spent more time with them, held their hand more or even at all, gone to the shops for them, took them along with the family to the beach and so many other things.

I was partly lucky as I did sit holding her hand, I did visit often and I did hug her.

If i Hadn’t, I would be in such a state knowing I could have and didn’t I would have not had memories I have today.